


June 05, 2009
Merwin: Leave It At The Dock
By John Merwin
Politics, religion, and fishing. Now there’s a combination that’s a little like trying to mix gasoline and water with a propane torch. You don’t know quite what you’re going to get, only that it might become very hot.
I point this out because when I first started taking my wife along occasionally on charter boats, I had to explain to her that she must leave anything related to politics or religion at the dock. When on the boat with other people, don’t mention a word even remotely related to either topic. If you do, it could be a very long day.
Those are items about which many people feel very strongly, including charter captains, boat mates, and other anglers. On one early trip, when she still didn’t believe me, she started chatting enthusiastically about a recent election as we headed out of the harbor. The skipper was at the helm to my immediate right, and I could see his jaw muscles clench as she blithely talked on. Uh-oh.
We were lucky that time in that things didn’t escalate into a day- long argument from which, being on a boat, there would be no refuge or escape. When in doubt, change the subject to something more benign. There are all kinds of pleasantries that can be exchanged in good humor on a fishing boat. If you don’t want a bomb to go off and ruin your fishing day, then don’t light the fuse.
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Agreed, let's keep it light so we ALL can enjoy ourselves.
Good advice John.
Religion and politics takes you back to the place your wanting to get away from when your fishing.
I prefer not to talk about either on a regular basis, and those are two of the LAST things I will even consider talking about on a boat or on the water. Yuck!!
I don't know about all that. One of the things that we seem to have lost in the US is the ability to actually talk about important subjects with people who don't agree with us. I don't know why this is- I think of Bill O'Reilly saying "shut up, shut up!" to guests on his show. Liberals thinking that if you don't agree with them you must be an idiot.
But it seems like I remember a time when people on boats and planes and everywhere else did talk about serious subjects, and if it got too hot, they'd just say- "hey, can we change the subject?"
I'll give a controversial opinion as to why I think this was, since this is F&S and I can: I think it was because we were a more violent, less tolerant, less litigious society. People acted differently twenty, thirty, and more years ago, because they didn't want to get punched in the nose. Conversations with strangers were more polite, and more people were more polite. (TV wasn't filled with people who are rude for a living, either).
So people did have more serious conversations, because thye knew how to do that. Politely, letting the other guy have a chance to talk. Agreeing to disagree-after all, this was America, right?
I worked for awhile commercial fishing on 35 -40 foot boats, 8 days out, and we talked about everything- butcher knife in hand. We only had one fight, and it was minor. When somebody started getting pushy with their politics or religion, we called it "letting your hair down." It was pretty much prohibited. We've lost the kind of etiquette that allows people to really talk.
I might detest u, think your a coward and a cad, think u have foul bodyodor and poor dental health, think your wife a skank and your children little piglets, think your moral is backwards, and yo mama a fat ugly bitch, but the right to speak your own unintelligent closeminded mind ill defend with my life..
BUT TRY THAT WHEN WHERE FISHING AND U SWIM HOME!!!!!!
Definitely agree, there is nothing more that annoys me than someone who comes along on a hunting or fishing trip and wants to either talk about religion or politics... I DONT CARE!... I just want to fish/hunt.
I go by one saying in my book:
"You can believe in what you believe, and I'll believe in what I believe"
Besides, arguing over it and such just makes out to be two angry people... most of the times I see two hard headed people that are unwilling to budge in any direction except their own... So whats the point of arguing! People are two dam$ stubborn and have too much pride to change their views.
yep thats one reason i have to go fishing, so i dont have to think of thhe socialist little jkid throughin ballouts to every company
I don't mind talking about anything. If you can do that with your kid, I suppose there are some thing we shouldn't say during bass fishing, but otherwise, why hold all that stuff in your mind? If you're thinking about legislation you don't agree with and want to say something about it, you actually should. Religion can be tiring because of the effect of the information act and what it's done to our traditional conservatism, but what makes the difference? Relgious people are far better to fish with, IMO. They typically come up with better spots.
I think Obama and his supporters are so wrong that I would not spend $ with a guide or charter if I knew they agreed with him. And there is no point in argueing here.
You have to at least be able to just drop the conversation, but it is a shame that people can't agree to disagree while sharing opinions
I think mitching and boaning about Obama is a safe bet with any outdoorsman. I cannot think of one outdoorsman I know who would be upset if I started a verbal rampage about Obama's socialist politics.
All of you guys made good points, but rather than risking ruining a perfectly good day by talking Religion & Politics, talk about fishin' or huntin' of even "wimmin"? We can usually agree on those subjects and makes for a more enjoyable day:) While were at it lets leave booze on shore also some people get downright mean and cranky with a load on. JMNSVHO!
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I don't know about all that. One of the things that we seem to have lost in the US is the ability to actually talk about important subjects with people who don't agree with us. I don't know why this is- I think of Bill O'Reilly saying "shut up, shut up!" to guests on his show. Liberals thinking that if you don't agree with them you must be an idiot.
But it seems like I remember a time when people on boats and planes and everywhere else did talk about serious subjects, and if it got too hot, they'd just say- "hey, can we change the subject?"
I'll give a controversial opinion as to why I think this was, since this is F&S and I can: I think it was because we were a more violent, less tolerant, less litigious society. People acted differently twenty, thirty, and more years ago, because they didn't want to get punched in the nose. Conversations with strangers were more polite, and more people were more polite. (TV wasn't filled with people who are rude for a living, either).
So people did have more serious conversations, because thye knew how to do that. Politely, letting the other guy have a chance to talk. Agreeing to disagree-after all, this was America, right?
I worked for awhile commercial fishing on 35 -40 foot boats, 8 days out, and we talked about everything- butcher knife in hand. We only had one fight, and it was minor. When somebody started getting pushy with their politics or religion, we called it "letting your hair down." It was pretty much prohibited. We've lost the kind of etiquette that allows people to really talk.
Agreed, let's keep it light so we ALL can enjoy ourselves.
I might detest u, think your a coward and a cad, think u have foul bodyodor and poor dental health, think your wife a skank and your children little piglets, think your moral is backwards, and yo mama a fat ugly bitch, but the right to speak your own unintelligent closeminded mind ill defend with my life..
BUT TRY THAT WHEN WHERE FISHING AND U SWIM HOME!!!!!!
I go by one saying in my book:
"You can believe in what you believe, and I'll believe in what I believe"
Besides, arguing over it and such just makes out to be two angry people... most of the times I see two hard headed people that are unwilling to budge in any direction except their own... So whats the point of arguing! People are two dam$ stubborn and have too much pride to change their views.
I don't mind talking about anything. If you can do that with your kid, I suppose there are some thing we shouldn't say during bass fishing, but otherwise, why hold all that stuff in your mind? If you're thinking about legislation you don't agree with and want to say something about it, you actually should. Religion can be tiring because of the effect of the information act and what it's done to our traditional conservatism, but what makes the difference? Relgious people are far better to fish with, IMO. They typically come up with better spots.
I think mitching and boaning about Obama is a safe bet with any outdoorsman. I cannot think of one outdoorsman I know who would be upset if I started a verbal rampage about Obama's socialist politics.
Good advice John.
Religion and politics takes you back to the place your wanting to get away from when your fishing.
I prefer not to talk about either on a regular basis, and those are two of the LAST things I will even consider talking about on a boat or on the water. Yuck!!
Definitely agree, there is nothing more that annoys me than someone who comes along on a hunting or fishing trip and wants to either talk about religion or politics... I DONT CARE!... I just want to fish/hunt.
yep thats one reason i have to go fishing, so i dont have to think of thhe socialist little jkid throughin ballouts to every company
I think Obama and his supporters are so wrong that I would not spend $ with a guide or charter if I knew they agreed with him. And there is no point in argueing here.
You have to at least be able to just drop the conversation, but it is a shame that people can't agree to disagree while sharing opinions
All of you guys made good points, but rather than risking ruining a perfectly good day by talking Religion & Politics, talk about fishin' or huntin' of even "wimmin"? We can usually agree on those subjects and makes for a more enjoyable day:) While were at it lets leave booze on shore also some people get downright mean and cranky with a load on. JMNSVHO!
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