So no smart-ass for you this time, Esquire, merely a suggestion for you and any other magazine that young, confused men might look to for guidance: Without a voice to put them in the context of real life the endless laundry lists of "essential" items, skills and how-to-do-this-and-how-to-be-that sidebars mean absolutely nothing. They're just words on a page to be glanced at and discarded. But wrap them in a real story told by a real person with a real voice and suddenly they have meaning, they have guidance. Because in the end, real manhood isn't something you can achieve by checking off a list. Either in person or in print, it must be taught by example.